And with today’s modern attitudes toward dating, we’re tempted to look to serve ourselves first before thinking of the needs of others.All these factors have led to a sharp decrease in the idea of “courtship” as opposed to dating.Prior to that time, marriage always involved much more input from the parents, and "trial relationships" leading up to marriage were not conducted at all.Courtship, as discussed in more detail subsequently, seeks to emulate the Godly models described in the Bible that were conducted by God's people up until the invention of dating.I think a single Christian person using “courtship” to describe their dating life wants to psychologically believe they are doing something a little better, a bit more nobler than merely “dating”.
In fact, with regards to “dating” I should not be too quick to say that this term necessarily included in the process towards marriage.
Courtship crashed back onto the cultural landscape in a big way several years ago when Joshua Harris wrote the book These are good parameters. The heart of courtship is the notion that you won’t just date for fun but will pursue romance with marriage as an end goal. First Corinthians tells us to flee from sexual immorality. Limiting time alone is a great way to run from the temptation to get overly physical.
I’ve been around a lot of girls who court and a lot of families who want their children to court. Clearly, the basic principles of courtship are so important to living a lifestyle of purity.
I have known lots of girls who haven’t committed themselves to courtship and yet, they don’t date just for fun; they only date guys who seem like good husband material, they involve their parents in their decision making and they do everything possible to keep their relationships pure.
I have found this to be an area where some people fall into pride.