You’ll have to be able to accept the fact that his wife will always be part of his life.
The two may still be in contact, especially if kids are involved.
It is far too terrifying to be alone in that water when she does not know how to handle it.
Now fast forward a year or so and Sara has learned to hold her breath and kick her feet; she’s put on her floaties and is splashing merrily in the deep end.
Did you ever try to teach your children how to swim?
Little Sara feels safe, secure, and enjoys the pool sitting on the steps or hanging onto the side.
Like Jennifer, she needs some advice but is concerned about how she can make the transition into dating easy on her children. He'd like to date again, and some of his friends say he should start looking for a woman now — after all, he's getting divorced soon.
Miraculously she makes her way to the steps, climbs out, and wraps herself in a towel.
But try to drag her away into the scary deep waters where she can't touch bottom and you invite pure panic!
Kicking, screaming, and clawing her way across your face and out of your arms, she try to thrash back to the side to the steps, where she was happiest.
After a few tears she doesn’t want to be left out and wants to go back into the pool—and that’s when you step in.
better, you see that it’s probably a good idea that she stay in the shallow end and get rid of the floaties.